Monday, October 28, 2013

Is your Company a Frankenstein?

When a company is managed properly, a sense of humanity prevails; after all, companies are human creations, run by humans. But far too many firms operate like some terrifying Frankenstein-style mashup of a human being. The result scares customers, as it should. If you spot a company like this – whether you are a customer or employee – running away may be your best move.

The head doesn't know what the body is doing. 
In department after department, day-to-day activities are grossly out of touch with the supposed strategy of the firm. The result is a flailing creature, wobbling down the road, wasting time and energy, and scaring the heck out of the "local townspeople."
Management says one thing, but rewards far different behaviors. They say: we're all about customers. They reward: sell, sell, sell.
As I write these words, there are four days left in the month. Any company that tells its sales force to "go all out" to deliver sales before the end of the month is making a conscious decision to ignore customer needs in favor of company profits. That's scary, because if you hurt customers, they tend to – you guessed it – run away.

The voice isn't genuine. 
An organization focused on the needs of other people speaks with a genuine human voice. But a company obsessed with sales quotas and pushing products sounds like a creature without a brain. Its attempts to sound human are jarring and off-putting.
"If 250,000 people like our Facebook page, then one lucky customer will win $1,250," roars the ugly creature. What's in it for the other 249,999?

The creature has no heart. 
Companies are people serving people. Each of us have needs and emotions. Many of us have other human beings who depend upon us. But too many business decisions ignore – or minimize – human needs, and reduce situations down to nothing more than numbers.
The best organizations both foster loyalty among their employees and offer loyalty in return. When times get tough, they band together instead of attacking each other (yes, laying off a loyal and capable employee is like attacking your own self.)
Heart is what drives people forward. A company without a heart will never compete as successfully as one whose heart is beating strongly.

Feedback gets ignored. 
A Frankenstein company fears feedback; it just sounds like angry people chasing the creature down the road. Such a firm thinks feedback equals complaints, and "complaints waste time."
Wrong, ugly monster.
The reality is that feedback tells a company how to get stronger and more competitive. It's like free advice. The faster and better a company gets at acting on feedback, the more human it will seem. The simplest definition of corporate intelligence is having something of value to say, and knowing what will be of value to different people.
In previous decades, Frankenstein companies could lumber through the world, because many firms were just too large to overcome these challenges. We accepted such subhuman behavior from companies.
Today, technology makes it possible to aim much higher, and social media creates a compelling reason to do so, because individuals are so quick to spread the word about companies that frighten them.
This Halloween, ditch the corporate monsters.

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Thursday, July 11, 2013

5 Compelling Reasons Why Marriage Wasn't Meant to Be Monogamous

By now, you've probably heard about Jada Pinkett Smith's recent interview that many people took to mean that she might be cool with the famous Fresh Prince of Bel-Air getting some extra fresh on the side.

And although Ms. Smith 
clarified her comments, the online world is still buzzing about the topic of monogamy and open marriage.

Related: 15 ways women are ruining their sex lives

While personally I can barely summon the energy to have sex with my own husband (three kids in four years has that effect on some of us, ok?) and the thought of the work it would require to not only embark on, but carry out, an actual affair just makes me tired, clearly not all marriages are monogamous.

In 
The Little Book of Heartbreak: Love Gone Wrong Through the Ages (Pengiun Press, 2013), author Meghan Laslocky gives a little background on the history of marriage and provides some compelling evidence in support of "debunking monogamy."

1. Marriage as we know it is a fairly recent invention.

In the history of marriage, the concept of marrying for love is a relatively new one; traditionally marriage was constructed as more of a business proposition of sorts, with each partner benefiting, usually socially, politically, or financially from the union. It wasn't until the 18th century Enlightenment that the idea of marrying for love became popular.

2. Doing it like they do on the discovery channel = not monogamous.

 In her book, Laslocky points out that in the animal kingdom, species that are thought to be monogamous are actually, usually not. In fact, of the 4,000 mammals in the animal kingdom, she states that less than 3% are monogamous to start out-and that monogamy is often in appearance only. For instance, a pair of "lovebirds?" Well, usually one of `em is indulging another lovebird on the side.

3. Couples that reproduce together, stay together.

She goes on to explain that many "monogamous" mammals in the animal world, especially the lovebirds, practice "social monogamy"-that is, raising a family with one mate while enjoying a romantic rendezvous every now and then. Scientists conclude such behavior is helpful to ensuring survival of the species, as the males spread their seed around for all to enjoy while the females get the help they need to raise all those hatchlings. Which, as she points out, puts another whole meaning to that "Are You My Mother" book we all know and love, right?

4. Society rules?

Laslocky's book also cited a study that showed that fewer than half of all modern societies forbid extramarital relationships within a marriage; in fact, many cultures don't see affairs or flings as deal-breakers to a successful marriage.

5. To each his or her own.

A 20-year long study of 164 couples, half of whom were not monogamous found that the spouses reported no difference in their perceived happiness nor was the rate of divorce any higher in the "open" marriages.

However, in the end, I'm just not buying it..

While this all makes for an interesting conversation (especially if you drop these little tidbits to your husband while eating B.L.T. pizza with him, although a word of warning-he probably will choke on that piece of bacon), I have to say that I'm just not buying it. Sure, it may be "natural" in the animal world for mates to fool around on each other, but it's also "natural" for some animals to eat their own offspring. Obviously, we have all evolved a bit to overcome some of our primitive urges and instincts.

So, sorry Mother Nature, but I'm just going to have to disagree with you on this one.

- By Chaunie Brusie