Tuesday, November 15, 2011


When Failure Leads to Innovation, and When It Doesn’t (Part One)

Successful innovation requires successful experimentation, and successful experimentation requires eagerness to learn from failure. This has become a cliché because it holds true, time and time again.
The great experimenter Thomas Edison is famous for comments such as, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” The design firm IDEO keeps up that spirit with their now-famous phrase, “Fail often in order to succeed earlier.”
Successful Failures
But let’s distinguish between two different kinds of failure: instructive failure and terminal failure. Apple’s Newton (PDA) and Lisa computer were of the instructive variety: they were failures to grow on, not failures to stop on. Circuit City was a electronics store chain that failed terminally because they didn’t have enough instructive failures. Failure is inevitable, but you can choose whether it’s instructive or terminal.
Early on, Hewlett Packard exploited the power of instructive failure. According to Peter Sims, “Hewlett Packard cofounder Bill Hewlett said HP needed to make 100 small bets on products to identify six that could be breakthroughs. So, little bets are for learning about problems and opportunities while big bets are for capitalizing upon them once they’ve been identified.” Sims’ “small bets” are what we’d call experiments: exposure to non-fatal failure that can teach you something.
The entrepreneur’s challenge can almost entirely be summed up as ensuring that the learn rate exceeds the burn rate: those who don’t learn fast enough go under.
Deliberate, inquisitive exposure to failure is an experiment. And a clever experiment is like a clever investment: your downside (risk) is manageable, and your upside (lesson) is spectacular. Of course, there is a time to bet the farm, but that’s after you’ve learned which farm to bet on.
Failing at Failure
Some people fail at failing: they fail without gaining anything. What’s the difference between failure that’s experimentation and failure that just failure? Maybe this: if you make a non-fatal mistake and learn from it, then it was “experimentation.” But if you make a mistake and deflect any lessons, then it was simply a failure. Lessons learned lead to innovation; lessons flunked, as in school, tend to be repeated.
Here are some ways to flunk at failing:
  • Finger pointing. When the question is, “Who screwed up?” instead of “What did we learn?” then the only thing that’s learned is how to keep your head down.
  • Reasons, stories, and excuses. When an organization’s lousy results allegedly stem from “the poor economy,” or “difficulty finding talent,” or “tough competition,” then nothing is learned or even speculated about what the organization can do better. Part of Warren Buffet’s initial fame stemmed from his annual reports in which he gave blunt assessments of what he and Berkshire Hathaway could have done better. It showed shareholders that lessons were not wasted on him.
  • Unclear success. Like a scientist with an untestable hypothesis, a leader with an unclear goal can spend a lot of time and money without learning much. For example, when any given organization consolidates two departments to “capture synergies,” what does “synergies” mean? Lower costs? Faster product development? Quicker response? What? Without some sense of the measurable goal, it will be impossible to get the Edison advantage of learning ways that won’t work. (And we’ve nixed the trick of defining success after the fact in an earlier post.)
  • Activity-based success. Of course, you can be clear about your success, but define it as an activity rather than as a result. In which case, failure and learning are equally unlikely. Again, no hypothesis is tested. For example, government officials often declare success after they’ve added programs or increased spending. That’s it! Nothing about goals set, goals met, or lessons learned. Costs go up, but learning stays flat.
All these problems function as organizational learning disabilities: dysfunctions that block learning and therefore block innovation. In the next post we’ll suggest some cures.
Meanwhile, what have you done that works? How have you overcome your own organization’s learning disabilities? How can you create a failure friendly environment, where team members feel comfortable with experimenting and learning from their failures? 

Wednesday, November 2, 2011


Bad habit buddies

I see them through a haze of smoke. The smoking buddies, clustered in the car park. The same faces every day at the same time, topping up their nicotine levels and - just as importantly - updating each other on the boss's latest madness.

There's nothing more firmly bonding than a dodgy habit shared. At university I had a friend called Leanne who loved wine gums. Every day we would sit in lectures eating wine gums by the handful under the desk. We were the wine gum girls, and we saw ourselves as a special club.

Our clandestine snacking fits with research that shows that teens and preteens will eat more when eating with overweight friends than with slimmer ones. They also tend to snack more with people they know than with unknown kids.

It's what my grandmother used to call a "bad influence", even though I am sure I was just as much of a bad influence on Leanne as she was on me.

The social bond created by our habits is one of the reasons they are so hard to give up. If you and your drinking buddy Kevin aren't knocking back tequila while shouting "Olé" and balancing lemon slices on your foreheads, then what keeps you together?

The good news is that good habits are also easier to keep up when they're done in a group or with a buddy. According to research done at Harvard a couple of years ago, family members, friends, colleagues and even more distant acquaintances are influenced when someone in the circle gives up smoking. 

Rather than losing friends when our lifestyle improves, we could take them with us. So maybe booze buddy Kevin can become Pilates pal Kevin? It's worth a try

Friday, October 7, 2011


Those of You Born
1930 - 1979


At the end of this Email is a quote of the month by Jay Leno.. If you don't read anything else, Please Read what he Said. Very well stated, Mr. Leno.

TO ALL THE KIDS WHO SURVIVED THE

1930's, 40's, 50's, 60's and 70's!!

First, we survived being born to mothers Who smoked and/or drank while they were Pregnant.

They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, Tuna from a can and didn't get tested for diabetes.

Then after that trauma, we were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs
covered with bright colored lead-base paints.

We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, Locks on doors or cabinets and when we rode. Our bikes, we had baseball caps not helmets on our heads.

As infants & children, We would ride in cars with no car seats, No booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags, bald tires and sometimes no brakes.

Riding in the back of a pick-up truck on a warm day Was always a special treat.

We drank water >From the garden hose and not from a bottle.

We shared one soft drink with four friends, >From one bottle and no one actually died from this.  We ate cupcakes, white bread, real butter and bacon. We drank Kool-Aid made with real white sugar. And, we weren't overweight.
WHY?

Because we were Always outside playing...that's why!

We would leave home in the morning and play all day, As long as we were back when the Streetlights came on.

No one was able To reach us all day. And, we were O.K.

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps And then ride them down the hill, only to find out We forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes
a few times, we learned to solve the problem. We did not have Playstations, Nintendo's and X-boxes. There were no video games, no 150 channels on cable,
No video movies or DVD's, no surround-sound or CD's, No cell phones, No personal computers, no Internet and no chat rooms. WE HAD FRIENDS
And we went outside and found them!

We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth And there were no lawsuits from these accidents. We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, And the worms did not live in us. Forever.

We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, Made up games with sticks and tennis balls and, Although we were told it would happen, We did not put out very many eyes.. We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and Knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just Walked in and talked to them.

Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal With disappointment. Imagine that!!

The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law Was unheard of.
They actually sided with the law!

These generations have produced some of the best Risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever.

The past 50 years Have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.
We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned how to deal with it all.

If YOU are one of them?
CONGRATULATIONS!
You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated so much of our lives
for our own good.

While you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave and lucky their parents were.  Kind of makes you want to run through the house
with scissors, doesn't it ?

The quote of the month is by Jay Leno:
"With hurricanes, tornados, fires out of control, mud slides, flooding, severe thunderstorms tearing up the country from one end to another, and with the threat of swine flu and terrorist attacks. Are we sure this is a good time to take God out of the Pledge of Allegiance?'

For those that prefer to think that God is not watching over us.. .go ahead and delete this. For the rest of us...pass this on.
A Small Prayer!


God determines who walks into your life....it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.

I need this back. If you'll do this for me, I'll do it for you.

When there is nothing left but God, that is when you find out that God is all you need. Take 60 seconds and give this a shot! All you do is simply say the following small prayer for the person who sent you this.

Father, God bless my friend in whatever it is that You know they may need this
day! And may their life be full of your peace, prosperity, and power as he/she seeks to have a closer relationship with you.

Amen.

Friday, August 19, 2011

Atama le Efa


2.  Atama le Efa

Molimo oa khale tlhahla-macholo,
Molimo o qalileng ts’imoloho ea tsohle,
O laeang ka lentsoe ebe ho a phethahala,
Oa na oa theha lefaats’e ka phetheho.

Joale Molimo oa rera ho etsa Mobusi,
Ea tla hlokomela tse tlaase lefaats’eng,
Oa re: “Ke tla etsa hore a tsoane le ‘Na,
Ka hoo lebitso la hae ke tla mo reha Mo-Nna.

Eitse hoba ‘Mopi o ‘mope motho,
Ka sebopeho sa Oona lits’obotsi,
Le pululelo ea Moea mohokong,
Oa bona hore o phethahetse.

Joale a hoanka hara Etene a hlahloba,
Lihloliloeng tsohle a li reha mabitso,
A reha bo-kholumulumo le menoang,
A reha boliba le tlhoro tsa lithaba.

A elelloa hore tsohle li phethahetse,
Li tsamaea ka bobeli ntja li ritetse,
Mela le tsona li palesitse ho ngatafala,
A sareloa hoba tsohle li na le balekane.

Ka sebakana le eena a hlonama,
Athe Morena O se a ‘mone pele,
“Ke se ke tla o etsetsa ‘mamphehi,”
Ho rialo Morena a se a bile a morobatsa.

O entse hora tse tharo a robile monakeli,
Hora tse tharo a li qeta a robile monakeli,
Morena a iketlile a etsa bonono ba hae,
Lithopola le liqholo a li phethahatsa.

Ha are tleko-tleko!! Atama,
Ha be ho eme pel’a hae thope,
E botle bo ke keng ba lekanngoa,
Hoba e ne ele eona ea mathomo.

Atama joale a thoma moetlo,
A etsa selekane ea e-ba lenyalo,
Bobeli ba e-ba ntho e le ‘ngoe,
Atama a bina a “locha” ho leboha Morena.

Ba ile ba lula pela molatsoana,
Atama a phetela Efa melao,
Melao ea serapa thomo ea Molimo,
A mpa a se ke a mo hlokomelisa khathoane.

Tsatsi le leng Atama a ile ts’olong,
Ha fihla khathoane ho Mosali,
Ea bua ka maleme a bohata,
Khathoane noha ea khale ea mo eka.

Ea re: “mohats’a Atama nka u je,
Hona ke limenye-menye tsa serapeng,
Mong’a teng o re le se ke la ja,
Ha le isa masapo ho beng ena a je.”

O ja a le mong mats’ela-nokana,
Nokana e phoroselang ea Etene,
‘Mamolatasane ho oa jeoa ho oa tingoa,
Tholoana e mots’oets’oeng hase le ka monate.

Efa a na a fihleloa ke letsoalo,
La mo re he! ka sefubeng,
Hoba ele lona molis’a motho,
A mpa a le hatella a jo tholoana.

Ea re Atama a fihla molekane,
A bile a le khare ea lipalesa,
Mosali a mo aka a mo loma tsebe,
A re: “haeba u oa nthata u ‘mamele.”

A re: “nka u je Atama,
O ke o tlohele bothoto bona,
O tl’o bone ha re ts’oana le Eena,
Re tseba tse ntle le tse mpe joaa ka Eena.

Atama a nka a latsoa,
Kholu ea phorosela marameng,
Monate oa sebe oa tsoa ka litsebe,
O ne a ba a tsoa khapha ka ihlo le le leng.

Eitse ba re mahlo-tloha!!
Ba iphumana ba le poosho boshampata,
Ba utloa serame ba utloa mohatsela,
Mapona-pona a ba bakela litlhong.

Joale ba kenoa ke letsoalo le leholo,
Lekunutu ba le hloka ho Morena,
Sebe ba se entse ka lerato,
Ba apara makhasi ho ipata bohlasoa.

Mots’eare Mong’a serapa a fihla,
A fumana batho ba ipatetse molao,
A re: “Atama o hokae le molao  ke o file oona?”
Eena a re: “Ke ipatetse oona Morena ke feela.”

A re: “Nna Atama ke lehana-puso,
Le mohats‘ aka a ka mpakela joalo,
Noha ka mohatla e mo latsoisitse a ja,
Ka se itheke moroalo le ‘na ka hloa ka ja.”

Joale Morena a fana ka kahlolo,
Are: “noha o tla hosha ka mpa faats’e,
Oena mosali o tla hosha ka mokokotlo,
Monna a o hatelle o be khoba la hae,

A tsoe mofufutso a etse mosebetsi.”

Ha haaaaa, A e-sa Masiu…

Ka: Teboho Mohlabi

Friday, August 12, 2011

Haters by Maya Angelo

Not everyone who smile on you is a real friend. Some people are evils and its impossible to understand them.



1)
                  Haters/ By Maya Angelou

A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their
time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.
They are very negative people to say the least.  Nothing is ever
good enough!

When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters...

That's why you have to be careful with whom you share your
blessings and your dreams, because some folk can't handle seeing
you blessed...

It's dangerous to be like somebody else... If God wanted you to be
like somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them!  Right?

You never know what people have gone through to get what they
have...

The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they
don't know my story...

If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you
can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!

We've all got some haters among us!

Some people envy you because you can:
    a) Have a relationship with God
    b) Light up a room when you walk in
    c) Start your own business
    d) Tell a man/woman to hit the curb (if he/she isn't about the right thing)
    e) Raise your children without both parents being in the home

Haters can't stand to see you happy.
Haters will never want to see you succeed.
Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side.

How do you handle your undercover haters?
You can handle these haters by:

          1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are
              *(VERY IMPORTANT!!)

          2.. Having a purpose to your life: Purpose does not
              mean having a job. You can have a job and still be
              unfulfilled.

A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be.
Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.

          3. By remembering what you have is by divine
                  prerogative and not human manipulation.

Fulfill your dreams!  You only have one life to live...when it’s your
time to leave this earth, you want to be able to say, 'I've lived my
life and fulfilled my dreams, Now I'm ready to go HOME!

When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, 'Don't look at
me...Look at who is in charge of me...'MY GOD!!!!

Pass this to all of your family & friends who you know are
not hating on you including the person who sent it to you
& ALL THE “GOSSIPERS”(HATERS)

If you don't get it back, maybe you called somebody out!
Don't worry about it, it's not your problem, it's theirs.
Just pray for them, that their life can be as fulfilled as
yours! Watch out for Haters...BUT most of all don't become
a HATER!




                    Maya Angelou

  
"Love your enemies for they are your mirror to reality..."
 

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Khalefo Ea Molimo

33.  Khalefo ea Molimo

Tsa fihla lemo tse boletsoeng,
Taba tsa ts’enolo tsa etsahala,
Tsa senoleha ho rona ra li bona,
Ra bona matlokotsi, masetla-libete.

Ntoa ha loana tsa mefuta,
Mabotho ha hlah’a setla-bocha,
A re hlahatsa a re hlaha lesumatha,
Ntoa ena ke koatsi-ea-bosolla-hlapi.

Bana ke bana ba tsoala bana,
Meqomo ea lithole ea tlala masea,
Bo-mmabona ba hlotse batsoali,
Bo-ntat’a bona ha ba ba tsebe lifahleho.

Matlo a thapelo le ona ke mekheka-kheka,
Bahlankana le baroetsana baa ithabisa,
Ba a qetoha ba noa mokankanyane,
Ba pakutsa metekoane ba ja kakana.

Tlala ho fihlile ea boja-likata,
Mehloa banna ba e kuta ka lifuba,
Ba ora letsatsi ba cha lifahleho,
Tsena ba li etsa ke ho hloka “moshomo”.

Bana ba mamarane litatampana,
Ke maqochane meriri e ea fefoha.
Ntsi-ntsi lia ba tlakela li utloa lephoka,
Li ba ja manina li ba je le lithoko.

Bacha ba rapela Satane liabolosi,
Ba re: “Moren’a sekoti re utloe rea rapela,
O re fe maruo a faats’e lena re “hume”,
Ihlo la nale re tla le phatlola ka qhomane.”

Bo-mphutlane ba matha mebileng,
Ba khaketsoa lijo ba kopa lipene,
Ka phirima ha ba kope baa ikhapela,
Ba nka ka mahahapa le ka sheshe tsa batho.

Ntloana-ts’oana ke kolo se secha “mohlaope”,
Teronko li tletse makeja-kejane,
Tsie e jana seropong ho hlaka-hlakane,
Ke hlaka-nts’u-ts’u ha ho etsoe makhethe.

Ngaka li mashano tsa kajeno,
Bababi ha ba fole lemong tsena,
Ua k’a its’upa boloetse rea ferekana,
Eba se re kolletsa ea koleke ho rera “phihlo”.

Noha ke motsoalle oa mosali tsatsing lena,
Ho ekoa le hona e se e le boemo,
Maqheku a matha a tsotse mebileng,
Lirope ba li beha ka ntle lepala-paleng.

Ke thaka-ha-li-fele metsofe,
Menepe ba e seha ba hana boqheku,
Ka pilo ba pata meriri ho taba,
Melomo e ka ea maupa “bakekolo.”

Bohlola ke papali e ncha ea bacha,
Selekane ba “saena” sa thabalano,
Lithethefatsi ke lijo tsa bona mokomete,
Ba nyorolla ka tai ba theolela “liokobatsi.”

Melamu ea banna ke “libistolo”,
Ba homa hang phelo bo fele,
Baheno ba bine ra shoeloa,
Ra shoeloa ke ngoana thoboloko.

Bahumi ba ja poqo-ka-hlanaka,
Khobe ba e hlaba ka lemao barui,
Mafuma ona a ja lithupa maboli,
Ntsi ba e kolla hanong bahlophehi.

Bana ha ba khalengoe ba “temokrasi,”
Le basali ba teng ba hlohile mots’eo,
Ha se fela banna ba bona ba hlephile,
Ba re: “Mokoko o itsoalla sethole hokong.

Bahlalefi ba pheha khang le Molimo kajeno,
Ka libonela-hole ba re ho bonela ‘Mopi,
Ka libuela-hole ba hloliha tsebe tsa Khosi,
Li koalehile thapelo ha li sa finyella.

Sebe se etsoa ka lerato baeka,
Liruoa li feta mahe sehlaheng,
Mashala a tsala molora “mohlaope”,
Le metsi a matle a matha a etsa bolele.

Banna ke maparo ba hana basali,
Basali ba nena bana ba hana tsoala,
Tsoala ke mohlape-moipusi ma-hana-puso,
Ho etsahala meluba-lube manyampetla.

Mebuso ea lefaats’e le eona e tsohelana matla,
Babusi ke bana baa hlolisana ba lefaats’e,
E mong o re: “qhomane tsa ka li feta sa hau,”
Eane ena a re: “nka u qhaqholla ka rabolloro.”

Metse ke marako ha ho okhelanoe mollo,
Mong le mong o khonoa ke sa ntlo ea hae,
Ea hlokang bonkong o shoela tlung le bana,
Seboko sa hae ha ho “ope” ea se utloang.

Metse ke masupi le lithako haeso,
Koatsi ke kholu-molumo ea kajeno,
Motse ho atleha oa lenong le lekhoaba,
Li ubella motho moea o e-s’o tsoe nameng.

Ao hle phephi Ramaseli,
A thupa e ke shape faats’e,
Noelo sena se bolila,
Se ke se re pote kathoko
Rea rapela.


Ka: Teboho Mohlabi

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

'Me Montsoali


12.  ‘Me Montsoali

Ka thari a mpepa,
Ka sejana a mphepa,
Ka matsoho a nkuka,
Ka lesoai a nkotlolla,
Le ‘na ke be motho.

Ka manala a nphatela,
Ka likhapha a nthapella,
Ka ho hlobaela a nkoietsa,
Ka litsieane a ntefella,
Sekolong ho rua tsebo.

Ka ho itima a mphomosetsa,
Ka motlopotlo a mphelisa,
Ka tlhatsuo a ntlhohonolofatsa,
Ka ho ntheha lebitso ka itseba,
Lefaats’e le metsoalle ea ntseba.

Ka lits’omo a nthuta,
Ka lipale a nkelellisoa,
Ka maele a nkeletsa,
Ka metlae a nthabisa,
Ke tle ke phelisane le ba bang.

Ke monna ke holile joale,
Ke litelu ke liphaka-phaka,
Ke hopola tsa bonyaneng,
Ke li bona joalo ka ts’omo,
Chee! ke li fetile ka thuso ea ‘me.

‘Me o nthapelle ho Molimo,
Nthapelise ke phele,
Ke ka tlholeho ke o sotlileng,
Hoba marabe o jeoa ke bana,
Oona o sale ele mokukutoane.


Ka: Teboho Mohlabi

Senyamo


1.  Senyamo

Senyamo se mang pina tsa banana,
Se binoa ke banana le bashanyana,
Mapatlelong a metse maputulo,
Ho likhare, maqai pelo lia uba,
Ba tsetselela ho tseba balekane.

Maqheku a bohile a tila faats’e,
Eka ba bona mehla ba e lebetse,
Ha ba ne ba thonya ea bona methepa,
Ba etsa tlama-thata moshoela ruri,
Kajeno ts’iu li ile maqhekoana.

Koma ba e bina ka hlooho bochaba,
Litlolo ba  li nehela malebela,
Chaba se hlokang moetlo sea fela,
Bomali-mabe ke ho lahla maseko,
Bokang tsa lona balimo ba thabe.

Banana ba heso matlola-lets’oana,
Le etseng menyakoe le thenthetse,
Le bapatse bocha ba lona le khabe,
Baholo le balimo ba tle ba thabe,
Tle le bone ha khotso e re atela.

Bashanyana joale se ba tla bolla,
E tla ba makoloane matlola-tsoku,
Lemo se oele ebe maphura-khoahla,
Sa bobeli se fele e le banna.

Tlhankana e ea raha morits’oana,
Batsoali ba thabe ba etse tlhophiso,
Ba il’o qela mohope sekha-metsi,
Molekane a phetheloe tsa moetlo.

Ke mang oa lona ea ratang tlamo,
Tlamo ea monoana ka sika la thole,
Lenyalo le boqaba la khothometso,
Ngoetsi ke ena e lehala kamona,
E nena tsa bohali khomo li tsoile.

Rona Basotho re batho ba senyamo,
Balekane ba thonyane ba tsebana,
Re se bakele bana mokhoka-khoale,
Ngoetsi e ts’aba monna o makopo.


Ka: Teboho Mohlabi

Mosali E Motle Lichabeng

13. Mosali e motle lichabeng

Tsatsi le leng ke ile ts’olong,
Ka oelana le phau e telele-telele,
Ka pikitla mahlo eaka kea hoehoeloa,
Athe ke bona mosali e motle lichabeng.
Ka oma mathe thena,
Ea ka ke jele lipabi,
Pelo ea otla ka e utloa,
Phatla ea fufuleloa ka e hlakola.
Naa kea lora banna,
Likharebe ke hlola li bona,
Hona ke ntho’e hlahang ha Molimo koana,
Morena O ho entse ka matsoho a iketlile.
Hoshe!! ‘manyeo,
‘Na ke mohlankana,
Etsoe ha ke e-so nyale,
Tsa heso ha li fula le tlala phula.
‘Mabotle nthate ke u ratile,
Ke rata mahlo a hau a bolea,
Lebala la hau tlhaku-ea-tekoane,
Thope ea seema ka tlhako methemeleleng.
Seema ka litlhako ke kopa metsi,
Ke tsamaile eto le le telele ke khathetse,
Nkhelle ka mohope selibeng sa lerato,
Ke romelle ntate hore ke monna joale.
Ke omme nthane ke hloka manyabolo,
A k’u ‘nyahe qoqotho ke utloe monate,
Ke jale peo ea lerato selibeng sa hau,
E tle e atlehe e noe ka mehla.
Mosetsana e motle ts’oanahali,
O leseka la mathe o phahlile molala,
Theka le lesesane ‘mamolukule,
Qholo ke ts’ebetso ea hlahla-macholo.
Matsoho a matsoabali o tseba mosebetsi,
Tlhafu e pikitlellane e tletse,
Fuba e ka sa leebana-khoroana,
U se jere ka bokhabane u oa tebuka.
Haa hata koekoe ngoana enoa,
A alile mabatha a thoena,
E ka “pikoko” nonyana e ntle,
Athe lentsoe ke mololi oa lithaha.
Eitse ke botsa telejane ngoana monna,
Ba mo ea ka liboko ba mo tsebang,
Athe bo ‘mamona ba a mo senya,
Ba re: “ha se bile hase botle ba feela bona.”
Ba re: “enoa ngoanana ‘m’ae o oa loea,
O roetse ka tlhoare o nyekoa ke tlhoare,
Ke leboli le jang thup’a molomo-monate,
Puo tsa hae li khahle batho le mangeloi.”
Ka re: “’na u ntekane ngoan’a moloi,
Ke o ratella le li-tsohle tsa hao,
O mphe le phehla ke je ke u rate,
Lelapa le tiisoa ke lerato”.
Ka re enoa ke oa ka oa senyamo,
Hoba thato hae thataletsoe ‘mopo,
Sehoete se chekoa ke pelo Basotho,
Le ona mahlo ha a je sa motho.
Ts’oanahali o mahlo a bohale,
Ha ke o sheba ke tlala likhapha,
E ka ke shebile khubung ea tsatsi,
Le mafube a bohale la mariha.
U mpakela litlhong ‘manyeo,
Ha u lia mahlo, kea u sheba mpara,
Ke be ke itebale ke sa tsoeretse mahlo,
E ke ke hoehoetsoe ke noha ea metsi fito.
Ha ke o thetsa kea nyaroha,
E ka ke ts’oaroa ke motlakase,
Ho qhoma litlhase ke shoa bohatsu,
Pelo e otle ke e utloe ka tsebeng.
Tlalo la hao le letle le borethe,
E ka o tlola khokhotsi ea mofuta,
U ka sele ea Basotho ea ts’omong,
Ha ‘na ke u bapisa le linana-bolele.
Rato la rona e tla ba tlama-thata,
E be khomareli ya kokotane,
Seboko se shoa le lenono,

Ke tle ke u hlonephe u ntlhonephe.

Ka: Teboho Mohlabi

Mosali

36. U ts’abe Mosali

Mosali palesa ea hoetla,

Khaba le letle la ho ratoa,

Baka la monna la ho phela,

Phoka ea hoseng e noesetsang.

He! ha o ts’aba o ts’abe basali,

Tau tse mesana tsa ho jara thari,

Hase thari ke mathata a chaba sena,

Baa lala ka ‘mele ba ikhakanye.

Basali ke melingoana ea faats’e lena,

Mofihli o tlisoa a be a fihlele ho bona,

Le motsamai mofu a hlatsuoa ke basali,

Basali ba u bonts’a ts’imoloho le timelo.

Ntsoe la mosali ke phala,

Le o tsosa liphateng o feeloa,

Ke phehla ho monn’a lebelete,

E ke ho bina linong tsa leholimo.

Basali pelesa tse meja,

Tse masoto tse likhare hloohong,

Batho ba melala e thata mafumahali,

Naa ho e mong ea ka roalang nkho?

Ke mang ea ka roalang nkho,

A pepile le ngoan’a mahetleng,

Sek’hoama a se ts’oere ka letsoho,

A khaola thota ho batla liselo.

Ke monna ofe a kil’a holisa ngoana,

A fefa mantle a hlatsoa meqato,

Mosese oa mo theosa mokokotlo,

A nkha majolotsa holim’a mahetla?

Ke mang oa lona banna,

A kileng a hlobaela bosiu,

A ema ka mphi a koietsa,

A bina eu! Eu! Siu ba sa?

Ke mang ea kil’a mamella mahloko,

A likotlo, lipeto, le mahlapa,

A motho o mo rata,

Bosiu haa utloile mokankanyane?

Ha ho lelapa le hlokang mosali,

Hoba o ka le bona ka likho maballong,

Mehloa e ka nyoloha le mabota,

Lithole tsa etsa thotobolo ka ifo.

Sefole e ka ba sentele sa linta,

Tsuka la khohlopo la o bitsa o le mongako,

Tlala ea e-ba ea boja-likata,

Ts’ila le khopane tsa etsa su tsa machekoa.

Haeba monna ke hlooho bokarallana,

Ha bo eo bo phelang bo hloka mahetla,

Bo hloka matsoho ho phomosetsa,

Hleka matsoho ao ke mosali.

He! lona banna hlokomelang,

A lona a baluoe matsatsi a puso,

Le tla timelloa ke ona mabela,

Le tla ba lithupula le ts’abe bohale,

Mohla mosali a ka le hlokelang tlhompho.

Ka : Teboho Mohlabi

Thursday, July 21, 2011

BEHAVIOUR CURRENCIES: WHO AFFORDS NON-RISKY BEHAVIOURS?

BEHAVIOUR CURRENCIES: WHO AFFORDS NON-RISKY BEHAVIOURS?  Whenever we deal with hard social issues; we have a tendency to reduce them to simple physical and even mathematical equations.

In the AIDS fraternity, we have a tendency to say;

Risk behaviour equals HIV infection

HIV causes AIDS

HIV prevention is as easy as ABC

We feel at ease doing our equations and our causalities don’t we?

Is ABC that easy?  If it was would we be number three per capita in the world with our prevalence rate? How do we expect a 40-year-old single man with a disability to Abstain simply because they are finding it hard to have a partner?  Is HIV a social phenomenon or a moral issue? What would be the best approach to deal with HIV? Moral approach or Social Approach?

How many people confess to being faithful and yet infect their partners, what is the measure of faithfulness?  Can you really come back to your partner and say, “Partner, I have been unfaithful tonight, so can we use a condom until I have tested and until we have passed the window period to confirm that I am still negative?”

Is a Condom used for trust or is it about prevention and safety?  In other words, are we using a condom because we do not trust each other or because we are taking precautions for safety? How many married people take this precaution of safety? Can a woman really teach her partner how to use a condom?  Can a woman ensure that a condom has been inserted --- properly even --- in the steam of the moment in the darkroom under blankets?  (I do not even want to talk about the accessibility and affordability of condoms here!!!)

A lot of research has shown that HIV has thrived more in poor settings than rich settings. It has also shown that in places where there is already social chaos like wars, unfair distribution of resources, poverty and migration, HIV seems to thrive more.

It is because poor people engage more in sex than other people? There have been such arguments that when poor people have nothing to do and do not have recreational facilities, they engage in sex and alcohol instead? Is that so? Can we really say rich people engage in sex less and drink less than poor people?

There have been talks about the vulnerabilities of poor factory workers who have multiple boyfriends so that they can assist them with rent, cooking gas, transport etc.  They are then thought to engage in sex as payment for all these services. Haeboo??

Why do people engage in risky sexual behaviours, why do people continue to engage in these behaviours that we have been talking about since 1986?  Is it because of a lack of information?  Is it because knowledge does not result in behaviour change?  Is it because the brochures are printed in English and most can not read them? I know I am speaking to a lot of my colleagues in this paragraph because these are the conclusions we often hear being uttered at workshops. “If you want to hide something from Basotho, put it in a book.” – With one of the highest literacy rates in Africa, I do not think so.  But it is for me to judge.  The intention of this article is not to give you answers or to pin me down to a certain belief, but I just need us to think all these through.

According to one Economic Philosopher (let me tell you before I continue that I did not do very well in Economics myself), behaviour is not just a physical phenomenon, but a social and indeed an economic phenomenon.  I want to focus on the economic aspect for now for the sake of this article.

This wise old man said everything that we do or not do depends on whether we can afford to do it or not.  Afford here is not just in terms of physical currency or Money but, time, self, space, behaviour, morals, information, survival etc.

Let me make an example: when people enter into a hole called a mine every morning, they know they might die that day, but they still enter the hole because they cannot afford NOT to enter the hole (it may be their only means of survival).  The money currency entering the hole at this point is more valuable than the survival currency.  It is why one researcher at the mines said, “Mineworkers refuse to use condoms because they say, that they battle real death every day in the mines and they are not scared of something that will kill them 10-20 years later?”

When a sex worker goes to work every night and stands in the cold dark night, she knows she may be raped or even killed.  But often a time, she cannot afford NOT to stand elsewhere or stay at home.  The money currency here is less than the moral currency of being judged and the survival currency of her dependants is also higher than the risk she is taking.

Even you… When you wake up on Monday after a long party you wish you could stay at home and not go to the office sometimes, but you still go to work because you cannot afford to stay at home as you will either lose your job or fail to meet deadlines.

Now let’s come back to HIV transmission: When people engage in sexual behaviour whether in marriage or not they may engage in behaviours that put them at risk because they do NOT afford those behaviours which do not put them to risk.  Whether because they are culturally broke, economically broke or socially broke to do what they know they should.  They are broke and cannot afford to make a decision that is good and healthy for them.

I know a case of a man who was totally abusive to his wife.  The woman went to the relevant offices and the man was brought to book.  When the judge gave a conviction, he sentenced the man to three years in jail.  At hearing this, the woman pleaded for him to be released and said that the family will handle the situation.  Let's look at why this woman made such a drastic change.  Apparently, this man was the breadwinner in the family and the woman realised that if he gets jailed she will not: Economically afford rent, food, school fees etc.

Socially afford: to be single, to be mocked by neighbours and colleagues.

Culturally afford: to be blamed by the husband’s family (Mosali o ngalla mots’eeo: Mmangoana o ts’oara thipa ka bohaleng. Blah Di Blah!!!

Religiously afford: What God had joined in Matrimony, let no man put asunder.

It was not just a simple case of, “He abused me and justice must be done”. Do you think this woman weight her currency properly by letting the man go free or should she have suffered this other currency deficit and let the man go to jail?

Have you heard a saying that some people are so broke that they cannot even afford to pay attention?  It is very true that when you are very broke, you cannot even concentrate and sometimes you make irrational decisions simply because you are broke.

On the interesting twist of things, we say that money makes the world go round and it is true.

So in conclusion, if people had enough money, they would afford to make all the good decisions that are expected of them because they would afford them. Is this even true?

A truck driver would take his wife along if he could afford to inform the boss without losing his job.  He could also inform the boss how often he needs to go home to his family if he could afford to. A factory worker would afford to pay her own rent, transport and airtime. Once she can afford this, she would be in a position to engage is sex for love only and not for fear of being left out in the dark or without rented shelter.

And sex workers? There would probably be one kind of sex workers around (nymphomaniacs) who have sex for the love of it and get paid for it and not those desperate vulnerable ones who hate sex and just do it for survival.

Let us think about all currencies when we make behaviour decisions…